The Stress-Free Guide To Hosting Your First Dinner Party [8 Steps, With Pictures]

Your first dinner party could serve many purposes.

It might be your way of playing out your fantasy of being on Chopped. Or a way to celebrate a big move to your dream city. It can be an opportunity to finally get your friends dressed up for a fancy evening in.

Or it could be a great excuse to have a party, while also seeming like an adult.

Advantages of Social Gatherings

• Social gatherings offer numerous benefits, both personally and socially. They provide networking opportunities, strengthen relationships, and enhance a sense of community.
• Attending or hosting such events can boost mental health by reducing feelings of loneliness and stress.
• These gatherings allow for the exchange of ideas, cultural enrichment, and the creation of cherished memories.
• They also serve as a platform for celebrating milestones and achievements, fostering a supportive and cohesive environment among friends, family, and colleagues.

Whatever the reason, here are eight tips and tricks for making it happen as stress-free—or at the very least, as stress-reduced—as possible.

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1. Decide who to invite and when you’re hosting

 For your first dinner party, four to six guests are a good starting point. Remember, you do have to feed all of them. And since you might only be used to cooking for a few people, starting small is a good idea..

(Plus, if they’re your close friends, you can probably burn the entrée, and they’ll still love you.)

A dinner party is a lot more intimate than a party party, so inviting only friends who have never could be awkward. Instead, ask people who know each other, then add one or two outsiders. Or invite a group of couples.

As for when to invite them, it’s a good idea to do it a little under a month ahead. Use a service like goHappy to figure out a date that works for everyone. Three weeks in advance is enough time for invitees to clear their schedules, but not too much time that they’ll forget about your party.  Make sure to ask for any dietary restrictions while you’re at it.

And this probably goes without saying: Fridays and Saturdays are the best nights to host. Any other night will either be near impossible with work schedules or a bummer because of work the following day.

2. Get strategic with menu planning

If the point of you hosting this shindig  is to show off your culinary skills, then the main focus should be on the, yep, food.

If it’s not? Well, you still need to serve food, but you won’t have to put as much pressure on yourself. Make some small bites, dub them tapas, and call it a day.

Cook meals you’ve tried before so you don’t have any surprises the day of. Or go for recipes that seem fancy, but are actually easy.

Get your dessert ready a couple of days ahead. The Happy Foodie rounded up 18 make-ahead desserts that’ll please every level of sweet tooth.

Time the cooking of your dishes in a way that doesn’t leave you in the kitchen (and out of the fun) all night. The Barefoot Contessa advises against using any recipe that can’t be cooked ahead.

Hosting a dinner party on a budget?

The New York Times shares tips on how to throw a cheap but elegant dinner party.

3. Provide plenty of drinks

Always wanted to learn how to pair wine with food? Now’s your chance. Check out Wine Folly’s basic wine and food pairing chart for some basic pointers.

We also recommend having beer or cider on deck, and maybe some liquor. But don’t let drinks break the bank.

Unless your liquor cabinet is already loaded with lots of options, wine is your safest bet. Liquor preferences differ, and you don’t want to get stuck buying a different kind of liquor for each attendee. That being said, you can’t go wrong with a signature cocktail.

If anyone asks what they can bring, say “alcohol.” They’ll likely pick something they like, which makes it easier for everyone.

Don’t drink and/or have friends who don’t drink?

BBC Good Food’s top 10 non-alcoholic drinks have something for everyone.

4. Prepare in advance

“Prep” means three things here: Food prep, apartment prep, and mental prep.

For food prep, make a list of ingredients based on your finalized menu. Give yourself enough time for two trips to the store (in case you forget something), plus one day of actual food prep.

If you’re slammed the week off, consider having groceries delivered to your house. FoodKick is a sure bet for New Yorkers.

Or ask someone to help you plan. If they go pick up supplies, you can clean the apartment, or vice versa.

This brings us to the second part of “prep:” house prep. Take this evening as an opportunity to clean your apartment.

You don’t have to clean every room, but make sure your living space, kitchen, and bathroom are clean. Create the space you’d want to be invited to.

Last, but far from least, is mental prep. Maybe you’re stressed after a long week. Maybe you’re nervous. Or maybe you’re just plain excited. Whatever you’re feeling, take a second to become aware of it, get calm, and ground yourself.

5. Set the ambiance

A few simple spruces make all the difference. Decorate your dinner table with fresh flowers. Set a subtle mood with light-scented candles String fairy  lights across the wall or ceiling, and dim your lamps to help people relax.

And don’t forget the music! Powerful small speakers are ideal, but your laptop will do in a pinch. Either way, a playlist is crucial.  Making a playlist should not be on the agenda while cooking, especially since Spotify’s Dinner Party Playlist exists. Tonight, you’re a host(ess), not a DJ.

Or invite your friend with the best music taste and give the job to them for the night.

6. Wear an apron

Wearing an apron take care of your clothes from spills and stains, allowing you to transition smoothly from cooking to entertaining. It also provides handy pockets for utensils and towels, keeping you organized and efficient. An apron not only adds a touch of professionalism but also enhances your overall hosting experience.

7. Be a cleaning hero

Clean up right after the party. Some guests might offer help to be nice, but don’t feel like you have to accept it.

Remember: You invited them over for a dinner party, so try to take care of everything involving the food. That means prep, cooking, and clean-up.

Gather all plates, glasses, and anything else lying around and put them in the kitchen. If it’s really late, or you don’t have a dishwasher (and therefore don’t feel like staying up until 3 AM washing dishes), put everything in the sink to soak overnight.

And those candles you lit? Don’t forget to blow them out. 🙂

8. Go easy on yourself

Set your own expectations low, but don’t apologize.

Yes, this could finally be your chance to assert yourself as Celebrity Chef of the Friend Group, but making yourself more nervous than necessary isn’t going to help the food come out better, or make the party go any smoother.

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Maybe your pre-dinner party prep has reminded you of those skis you never use.  Or those blankets from your mom you forgot about, and those books you love but don’t have space for anymore.

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All you have to do is schedule a storage pickup (your first pickup is free!) pack your stuff, and leave the rest to us.

And with all the time you save from not buying boxes to pack, driving to a self-storage unit, and then heading back to it when you need something, you’ll have more time to get your dinner party Instagram-perfect.

Guidelines for Hosts: Do’s and Don’ts

Hosting a dinner party comes with its own set of etiquette and expectations. Here are some essential do’s and don’ts:

Do’s:

• Be Welcoming: It’s not just about greeting guests; it’s about making them feel appreciated and valued as they arrive, truly making them feel at home.
• Introduce Guests: Facilitate introductions, especially if only some of your guests know each other.
• Engage with Everyone: It’s not just about spending time with each guest; it’s about making each one feel important and integral to the event and ensuring everyone feels included.
• Provide Clear Directions: Ensure guests know where the restroom is and where to place their coats.
• Stay Calm and Positive: Your attitude can set the tone for the entire evening. Stay relaxed and cheerful, even if there are hiccups along the way.

Don’ts:

• Don’t Overwhelm Yourself: Choose a menu and activities that you can handle comfortably.
• Don’t Ignore Dietary Needs: Pay attention to any dietary restrictions or allergies.
• Don’t Be Inflexible: Be prepared to adapt if something goes differently.
• Don’t Forget to Have Fun: Remember, it’s your party too! Enjoy the company of your guests.

Tips for Managing Unexpected Issues

Even with the best planning, unexpected issues can arise. Here’s how to handle them gracefully:

• Stay Calm: Maintain your composure to prevent stress from spreading to your guests.
• Have a Backup Plan: Whether it’s extra food or an alternate activity, having a plan B can save the day.
• Ask for Help: If things get hectic, don’t hesitate to ask a close friend or family member for help.
• Communicate: If there’s a delay or issue, let your guests know politely and keep them engaged.
• Keep Essentials Handy: For minor emergencies, extra supplies like utensils, napkins, and a first aid kit are available.

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Conclusion

Concluding your dinner party on a positive note is just as important as planning it. As the evening winds down, remember to express your gratitude to your guests for their presence, as it shows appreciation and encourages future attendance.

Offer a small token of appreciation or a parting gift if possible. This thoughtful action leaves a lasting impression and shows your guests that their presence was valued. Share contact information for future gatherings and solicit feedback to improve your next event.

Lastly, take a moment to relax and reflect on the success of your gathering. Appreciate the effort you put into creating a memorable experience for everyone, and feel a sense of accomplishment and pride in your hosting skills.

FAQs for Hosting a Dinner Party

Q: How do I create an effective guest list?

When creating a guest list, consider the size of your space and the nature of your event. Aim for a balanced mix of personalities to ensure lively and enjoyable conversations. Consider any dietary restrictions or preferences and ensure you have enough seating and table space for everyone.

Q: How can I pick the perfect theme for my dinner party?

Choose a theme that reflects the occasion and resonates with your guests. It can be as simple as a color scheme or as intricate as a cultural celebration. Consider your interests, the season, and what would be fun for your guests. Themes can help guide your menu, decorations, and even dress code.

Q: How do I prepare appetizers in advance without losing freshness?

To keep appetizers fresh, select items that store well, such as dips, cheeses, and cured meats. Prepare components in advance and store them in airtight containers. Assemble just before serving to ensure maximum freshness. Keep refrigerated items cool and only bring them out when needed.

Q: How can I ensure I have enough beverages for all guests?

Plan on providing a variety of drinks, including water, soft drinks, wine, and cocktails. As a general rule, allocate about two drinks per person per hour. It’s better to have a bit more than you think you’ll need. Additionally, have non-alcoholic options available for guests who do not drink.

Q: What should I do if a guest arrives early or late?

A: If a guest arrives early, graciously welcome them and give them a small task to help with final preparations. If someone arrives late, make them feel welcome without disrupting the flow of the event. Ensure they know where to find food and drinks and integrate them into the ongoing activities seamlessly.

This article was written by Hannah Van Arsdale, a freelance writer and dog person based in Portland, OR.